THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING
There’s a special kind of love that grows in the quiet moments between the doctor’s appointments, the fatigue, the unexpected flare-ups, and the days when you feel like you're pouring from an empty cup. Living with multiple sclerosis while navigating marriage isn’t always easy, but it does reveal something beautiful: Presence is a gift, support is a gift, and love real, rooted, intentional love is the gift that keeps on giving.
For my sisters walking this MS journey, I want to remind you: You are not a burden. You are a blessing. Your strength may look different today than it did years ago, but strength is still strength. And for the husbands who stand beside us, love us through the unpredictable days, cover us in prayer, we see you, we honor you, and we cherish you.
Marriage with MS requires a different kind of teamwork. Communication has to be clearer. Grace has to be wider. Patience has to be deeper. Yet within all of that, there is an opportunity to become each other’s daily gift. Not in grand gestures. Not in perfection. But in presence. Presence says, “I’m here, even on the hard days.” Support says, “We’re in this together, you are not alone.” Love says, “Even when MS challenges us, it will not define us.”
I’ve learned that the most meaningful gift we can give in a marriage is the version of you that refuses to quit, your heart, your compassion, your honesty, and your willingness to keep showing up. Yes, MS may change the pace, but it cannot stop the purpose of your marriage. It cannot silence laughter, the joy, or the connection that two people intentionally choose every day.
Being the gift that keeps on giving doesn’t mean you have to overextend yourself or ignore your own needs. It means offering what remains pure and powerful: your presence, your love, and your commitment. Here are a few ways to be that gift, even on the days MS feels heavy:
1. Communicate with honesty and softness. Tell your spouse what you’re feeling — physically, emotionally, and mentally. MS symptoms can be unpredictable, so clear communication builds trust. Softness invites connection instead of tension.
2. Show appreciation often. A simple “thank you,” a gentle touch, or a compliment can strengthen the bond. Gratitude creates warmth when both partners feel seen and valued.
3. Protect your peace together. Set boundaries around stress,and over-committing. Create a peaceful home environment whether it’s through rest, prayer, or quiet time for the both of you.
4. Prioritize intimacy in new ways. Intimacy may shift, but don't allow it to disappear. Prioritize emotional closeness, lovemaking, quality time, and moments of affection. This nourishes your marriage.
Marriage and ms is a unique combination, but it is also a testimony of resilience. When you choose to love with intention and show up for each other, you truly become the gift that keeps on giving. Remember, your story is powerful.Your love is powerful. And that, my friends, is a gift.
